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Devoted mother-of-four dies from heart failure after implants trigger dormant TB

Devoted mother-of-four dies from heart failure after implants trigger dormant TB

  • 'Mum wanted other women to know that breast enlargements aren't worth it'
  • Doctors believe breast implants may have triggered dormant TB
  • Two of Kerry's implants exploded and she also battled through MRSA and a double mastectomy
  • Kerry died of internal bleeding after an artery in her heart collapsed from stress

By Claire Bates

PUBLISHED: 05:57 EST, 6 July 2012 | UPDATED: 08:56 EST, 6 July 2012


For most of her life Kerry Elia was self-conscious about her body; she hated her flat 34A chest and longed to be curvy and shapely like other women she knew.

So, after years of saving to pay for the cosmetic surgery she was desperate for, the mother-f-four was delighted with the results of the procedure that left her with the body she'd longed for.

For the first time ever she had boobs she loved and she finally felt like the woman she’d always wanted to be.

But her joy soon turned to despair as the breast implants she had paid £3,750 for began slowly killing her.

Kerry at home over Christmas in 2011. It was one of the last pictures taken of her before she died

Kerry at home over Christmas in 2009. It was one of the last pictures taken of her before she died. Her heart failed following TB treatment

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Kerry before and after her operation: She was delighted with her larger breasts but came to regret having the surgery

Now, the four children she left behind â€" Shannon, 21, Joe, 19, Lloyd, 15, and six-year-old Madison â€" wish she had never gone for surgery.

Shannon said: 'Mum was happiest after she had her boob job. She loved feeling womanly and curvy and it made her really confident. But before long she fell ill and never recovered.

'Mum suffered for years after having the operation and she regretted having it done.

'She even had a mastectomy but it was too late by then. She wanted other women to know it wasn’t worth it.'

Shannon was eight when Kerry, from Eltham, South East London, had saved enough for a breast enlargement.

Kerry’s mother Linda, 61, remembers the day in 1999 her daughter called to tell her she was going ahead with the operation.

'My heart sank,' recalls Linda. 'But I knew it was something she had wanted since she was a teenager and she’d been saving for years.'

Kerry’s operation in London transformed her into a curvy 34C and she was delighted with the results. Linda remembers her being so happy she cried.

'She said she felt like a real woman at last and her confidence blossomed. She had a photo shoot done and it was the first time she had ever liked a picture of herself,' she added.

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Kerry Elia (left) when she was in hospital just before she died. Right - with her daughter Shannon when she was little

Kerry with her daughter Shannon who said that in the end her mother knew her breast implants hadn't been worth it

Kerry with her daughter Shannon who said that in the end her mother knew her breast implants hadn't been worth it

Two years after the operation, Kerry met her husband-to-be, security guard Darren. But 18 months later, she developed a cough and a chest X-ray revealed she had tuberculosis, a serious lung infection.

Doctors were not sure how she’d caught it, but one theory was the disease had laid dormant in her body until the implants were inserted.

Linda explains: 'We were all worried, but Kerry told us not to be. She took it in her stride and said the medication would clear it up. None of us thought for a minute it would end up killing her.'

The cough did clear up and Kerry and Darren started planning their wedding with Shannon due to be a bridesmaid. But one morning, Kerry called Linda distraught saying that her implant had just exploded.

'She was on her way to work when she felt a pop in her chest and then blood and fluid had started seeping out of an open wound on her breast.

'I told her to drive straight to hospital.'

Kerry Elia Missing mum: Shannon today with her grandmother Linda

Missing mum: Shannon today with her grandmother Linda (right). They said Kerry's breasts robbed her of so much. Left - a poem Shannon read at her mother's funeral

AN AIRBORNE THREAT

Tuberculosis is primarily a disease of the lungs that can spread to other organs and can be fatal if left untreated.

About 90 per cent of people who get infected with TB develop a latent TB infection, which means the infecting bacteria are alive in the body, but inactive. People who have latent infections do not have TB symptoms and cannot spread the infection to others.

However, about five per cent of latent TB become active TB in the first year, and about five to 15 per cent after that.

TB becomes latent when an infected person’s immune system isn't strong enough to keep the infectious bacteria in check. It breaks out of walled off lesions known as 'tubercles' that can survive for decades. This could explain why Kerry's TB emerged about her breast surgery.

In the last 20 years TB cases have gradually increased in the UK, particularly among ethnic minorit y communities originally from places where TB is widespread.

Source: http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis/

It was bad news. The TB infection was back and it had eaten away at the scar tissue, causing the implant to burst.

The risk of infection was serious and Kerry was told to have the implants taken out.

Call-centre worker Shannon recalls: 'Mum tried so hard to smile on her wedding day but she kept crossing her arms because the dress no longer fitted her chest and it was gaping open.'

After the operation, Kerry’s confidence crumbled and she admitted she felt like a freak without her implants. Finally, a year later, she got the all-clear to have them replaced.

'I remember Mum laughing and joking and letting us all have a squeeze because she had her boobs back,' says Shannon. 'She was over the moon and said everything would get back to normal now.'

Only it wasn’t to be because just a few months after the second operation, accounts worker Kerry’s other boob popped open and the implants had to be removed for a second time.

This time she was left with scarring across both boobs and an open wound on her right.

Tests also revealed the devastating news that Kerry had caught MRSA while she was in hospital. It meant yet more medication but, finally, Kerry beat it and she decided to have another baby with Darren.

Kerry Elia pictured with her youngest daughter Madison (left) her mother Linda and daughters Shannon and Lorraine

Family tragedy: Kerry Elia pictured with her youngest daughter Madison (left) her mother Linda and daughters Shannon and Lorraine

Funeral: Kerry Elia who died after a series of complications which was triggered by her boob job

Funeral: Kerry Elia who died after a series of complications which was triggered by her boob job

Baby Madison was born in June 2005 and Kerry was advised it was safe to breast-feed her.

But within a matter of months their happiness was destroyed when doctors told Kerry that the TB had returned and then discovered a lump in her breast.

Shannon says: 'At first we feared cancer but tests showed that it was scar tissue from all of the breast operations that was turning septic.

'It meant that Mum might end up getting blood poisoning and die.'

Kerry was advised to have her left breast completely removed but, instead, she begged surgeons to remove them both.

Linda explains: 'She’d been through so much by then she didn’t care anymore. She wanted them gone so she could get well again and get back to being a good wife and mum.”

Kerry in her late teens: She was never happy with her flat-chest

Kerry in her late teens: She was never happy with her flat-chest

The following week, Kerry had a double mastectomy. 'It was a big operation but she still hadn’t lost her sense of humour,' says Shannon.

Before she went home, the hospital gave Kerry a specially made mastectomy bra with built-in pads to look like breasts.

'She had us in stitches when she would ask one of us to ‘go and get my boobs’,' says Shannon.

'Sometimes my little sister would put the pads on, which made us all laugh.'

Little Maddy was just three when Kerry started coughing again and her family feared the TB was back. She had tubes fitted into her chest to pump in medication but it didn’t seem to help and tests showed that she had grown resistant to all the drugs.

Doctors were left with just one option: to remove part of her lung.

Linda recalls: 'I went in with her to hospital the night before the operation and lay on the bed with her eating sweets and watching TV.

'She turned to me and asked if she was going to be OK and it was the first time I’d ever seen her look scared.

'Of course you will’, I told her. ‘You always are’.'

Five days after the operation Kerry was allowed home. The procedure appeared to have been a success. But a month on, Kerry started bleeding during the night and Darren quickly rushed her into hospital.

For the first two nights she seemed stable but on the third morning, January 12, 2010, Linda called and was given the devastating news that Kerry had passed away.

'I was actually on my way to see her. I said they must have the wrong person. I dropped the phone and thought I was going to collapse,' she says.

Linda asked Kerry’s sister to go to Shannon’s office and break the news. At the hospital, the family was told Kerry had died of internal bleeding. An artery in her heart had collapsed under the stress.
She was only 40 and her body just couldn’t take it any more.

Shannon made sure her mother's fake breasts were in her coffin when she was cremated.

'She never went anywhere without them so I know she would have liked that,' she says.

'Mum never really blamed her boobs for all that happened to her, even though her health only went downhill after she had the chest implants.

'They made her so happy, but in the end she knew it wasn’t worth it. Her boobs robbed her of so much.

'But they also robbed us of the most loveliest mum we could have wished for and we miss her.

'Mum wanted bigger boobs but they killed her â€" we’d do anything to have her back the way she was.'

For more information about issues surrounding TB visit www.TBalert.org and if you would like to make a donation to the charity please visit Kerry’s just giving page at www.justgiving.com/Kerry-Elia/

 

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only words ,she was beautiful before ,so sad

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You are born with what you are meant to have. I've got a flat chest in my opinion but my husband doesn't care one bit and he says I always look beautiful inside and out. That's what matters to me. Poor woman, such a tragic story.

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Wouldn't it be better to wear 'chicken fillets'? They do the same job as implants, but they are on the outside so no danger? My heartfelt sympathies to her family and friends. May she rest in peace.

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Such a shame. If only we could accept our bodies as they are and not risk our health for cosmetic reasons. - unfortunately it's usually when our health deteriorates that we realise it is this, and not the size of our boobs, our tummy, whatever, that is important.

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My heart goes out to this lady's family. TB is a disease of the past and people should be aware of its re-emergence.

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I feel so sorry for this lady, and condolences to the family for the loss of such a loving mum. I just feel that the media and celebrities have such a lot to answer for in making women today feel that unless they are skinny, eternally young, never get wrinkly yet have 'curves', they are less womanly than those we see in the media. For many of us, we could never live up to this ideal yet we keep getting such articles day after day and behind closed doors for some it is devastating. Just look at the 'Femail' column to your right and every day it is 'bikini body' this and 'so and so shows off her curves' etc. that. Maybe the Daily Mail could set a new tend in the media and make the 'Femail' column lighthearted yet concentrate much less on women's bodies. Just a thought.

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Such a sad story but I have one question, didn't she get a TB shot as a kid? Aren't TB vaccines given to every kid by the age of 6? I guess she didn't get hers. This shows the importance of Vaccinations, although the amount administered, combined with the other additives, studies still need to be done for the safety and links to autism. I feel for her family. - annie w, Los Angeles USA, 06/7/2012 14:41 We used to be given the TB vaccine when we got to 13, but the government stopped it years ago in a cost cutting measure as TB cases were no longer seen in the UK, unfortunately they had not thought ahead to the large influx of immigrants from countries that are rampant with TB. Now only children who are deemed at risk of TB through contact with families abroad are vaccinated, the rest of us have to cross our fingers and hope that our children do not catch TB, or if they do, that the doctor you take them to recognises the symptoms in time.

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I have read the comments and would like to say thankyou to you all for your condolences. We as a family are beging to cope without Kerry but still miss her dreadfully. In answer to the lady from Los Angeles yes Kerry did have all her vaccinations as a child - including TB - but since her death we have found out by research that TB jabs only last 10years so it was to no avail. Also my other Grand son of Kerry's sister Lorraine is at secondary school and has just been informed that because TB is on the DECREASE they will no longer being given TB jabs !!! but in the news media now there is a SUPER TB BUG that is not treatable by normal anti-biotics so we are all now at risk - we cannoth win!! Our NHS is in such dire trouble it seems no longer fit for purpose!

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I hope that others will take note and learn to be content with how they are. She looked better in the before photos I think anyway and it is so sad to lose your life for something so futile

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this article is about my mum and its so strange to read it all as if i was an outsider.. lovely to see messages of sympathy

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Parents whose lives revolve around their children damage their health

Parents whose lives revolve around their children damage their health

By Tamara Cohen

PUBLISHED: 10:08 EST, 6 July 2012 | UPDATED: 19:54 EST, 6 July 2012

Parenthood is supposed to  be one of life’s most fulfilling experiences.
But mothers whose lives revolve around their children may be more likely to suffer from depression, according to a study.

American researchers questioned 181 women with children under five and found ‘intensive mothering’ damaged their  mental health.

The trend for mothers in particular to  be extremely involved in their child’s  every experience is known as ‘helicopter parenting’, with psychologists saying it leaves children fragile and unable to  cope with life’s experiences.

The researchers said the women who showed symptoms of depression were far more likely to endorse intensive parenting

The researchers said the women who showed symptoms of depression were far more likely to endorse intensive parenting

The researchers defined intensive mothering as women who believe they make better parents than men, that mothering should  revolve around the child’s needs â€" who should also always be intellectually stimulated â€" and that  children should be seen as  ‘sacred, delightful and fulfilling’ by their parents.

The researchers, from the University of Mary Washington, Virginia, said this obsession with being perfect is common to many middle-class parents and may be making them miserable.

The women, aged 18 to 49, were mostly middle-class and married or in long-term relationships.

They were asked a series of questions designed to identify their parenting style.

Women who believed mothers were the most important parents and were reluctant to let others help them care for their child were found to be less satisfied with their lives, while those who saw parenting as a challenge requiring specialist knowledge and skills were more likely to be stressed and depressed.

Nearly one in four of the women displayed signs of depression, even after taking into account the  support new mothers receive  from their family â€" which is thought to have an important effect on mental health.

Most of the mothers worked, although ‘intensive mothers’ often said parenting was more stressful than a job. Lead author Kathryn Rizzo said the study found it was some women’s approach to parenting that caused them problems.

The authors of the study, which has been published online in the Journal of Child and Family  Studies, said: ‘If intensive mothering is related to so many negative mental health outcomes, why do women do it?

‘They may think that it makes them better mothers, so they are willing to sacrifice their own mental health to enhance their children’s cognitive, social and emotional outcomes.

‘In reality, intensive parenting may have the opposite effect on children from what parents intend.’

Helicopter parents have been blamed for stopping their offspring enjoying childhood by scheduling hours of extra-curricular activities. Some even attend their child’s freshers’ week at university.

PREGNANT AGAIN, THE MUM HAPPILY HOVERING OVER A FAMILY OF ELEVEN CHILDREN

She already has 11 children in her brood and refuses to claim any extra benefits from the state.

So perhaps Tania Sullivan thought feeding one extra mouth wouldn’t make much difference â€" or she simply wanted a nice round dozen.

Because the married supermum has revealed that, only eight months after giving birth to twins, she is pregnant again.

Mrs Sullivan, 37, said: ‘Everybody was thrilled to find out another baby was on the way.’

Mrs Sullivan and husband Mike, 39, live on his joiner’s salary  of £34,000, supported by tax  credits and child benefit of around £617 a month.

She runs a successful website and has written two books about life with a larger family. The self-reliant mother also home-schools seven of the children.


Proud parents: Tania Sullivan and husband Mike with their 11-strong family at their hom in Hoo, Kent

Proud parents: Tania Sullivan and husband Mike with their 11-strong family at their hom in Hoo, Kent



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The most important sentence in this article is 'most of the mothers worked'. Unfortunately governments will always prefer to preside over double the number of working, taxpaying people than half the number. It is simple maths. It makes them richer and more powerful on the world stage to rule over more workers. So they encourage women to work, regardless of the effects on the family and on society. Women are brainwashed into thinking that a 'career' (ie spending your valuable time making profits for your boss) is somehow more attractive than raising your own flesh and blood. And then we must all walk streets which are full of angry teenagers, raised on a diet of processed food by busy parents who were never fully there for them. I am very pleased that women can choose to have a career or a family. That is a great leap forward. But making people think they can (or worse, should) have both? Pure evil and greed.

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The parents, or mothers, who intensely-parent their children, for whatever reason, are not usually appreciated anyway. They tend to turn off their children.

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Lol tuahail, Liverpool 0:47 a US university did the research so if it didn't state the background we can assume they are US parents, they don't mention specific eras so we can assume it is current. The article mentions middle class married families giving us further information - so they mostly aren't single parents. It is about western middle class families today, just because they are in a minority in the world it doesn't mean they shouldn't be mentioned in a US study or British online article without balance from pre-war or non-western families. Please read the article properly.

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Maybe the women are depressed because their husbands are not helping out so they have to do everything. My husband is a great 'fun' dad but rubbish at the basics, getting our son up, dressed, to school, making sure he eats 3 decent meals a day, getting him to bed at a reasonable hour, not letting him eat loads of junk food or play computer games for hours (our son is 4). It has pushed me to be over concerned about our son as I am doing the worrying for two! To be honest it works fine for us as I make sure I take time out to myself and don't push our son - after school he chills out and plays by himself with toys, watches a bit of TV or goes to the park, I don't hover around and play with him.

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I'm not a helicopter parent but I do my job. Sometimes I do wonder where I've gone...

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I think it's all about balance--Motherhood is rewarding and brutal at the same time, but every Mother needs a balance in her life--a break on a regular basis, a hobby, some time to herself. There's still guilt attached to a Mom saying "I have a life outside of my children, I am still a person with needs." and it's easy to become obsessive and spread too thin. I'm a Mother first and foremost...but I'm still a human being.

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Seems like the 'scientists' set out to proove something negative about mums, and succeeded. Not sure what the value of this research is though. I like being a mum and devoting time to my kid, so does my partner - that's why we had him in the first place. Does not mean he is spoilt, just loved.

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This report looks like garbage. Firstly, it's about Western mothers and Western mothers are a minority of all the world's mothers. It doesn't say whether they're single mothers or not - this would be significant. If we compare modern Western mothers with pre-war Western mothers or non-Western mothers we find a very different social environment. Children are unable to run free with their friends. Mothers are quite isolated from other mothers and all the support that comes with the traditional community. Technology has played a big role in this isolation. The washing machine, the cooker and the car have meant that things women always did together they now do in isolation. Humans, especially women, are social animals. Isolation and the stress of Western living are likely the real causes of unhappiness and depression.

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"However, the fifth of women who had symptoms of depression were far more likely to endorse intensive parenting." ----So the study either shows that intensive parenting leads to stress and depression as the headline says, or more likely, that stressed and depressed mothers are more likely to 'make their child the centre of their world'. Hard to know which is chicken and which is egg, from this study...

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I made my children the centre of my world - years later now they are grown up I find myself really lonely as I have lost touch with my former friends. Yes, children are precious and important but don't make the same mistake as me and keep with your friends as well.

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Checking In: Jamie Parker

Checking In: Jamie Parker

By Priscilla Pollara

PUBLISHED: 12:21 EST, 6 July 2012 | UPDATED: 12:21 EST, 6 July 2012

In the latest of our occasional series on the travel habits of celebrities, actor Jamie Parker talks searching for wild dolphins in the Maldives, insect snacks and how a Spanish holiday when he was young almost went wrong...

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Exotic tastes: Actor Jamie Parker is a fan of faraway dreamy destinations

Most memorable destination?

The Maldives. A guiltily expensive paradise â€" but worth every penny.

Three best things to do there?

Eat seared tuna steak, go in search of wild dolphins and, for my third favourite thing, no comment.

Money no object, where would you have dinner?

Something cheap, simple and big. I like Monoloco in Petersfield, Hampshire, and Little Dorrit in London’s Borough Market. Everything’s delicious, healthy and inexpensive.

In which country do you feel most at home?

The United Kingdom. New Zealand comes a close second.

Strangest dish you've tasted on your travels?

Japanese gold leaf plum, wrapped in its own jelly with four dead baby bees lying on top. A chocolate-covered scorpion was pretty weird, too.

Who is your ideal travel companion?

My wife and child.

The Maldives

Idyllic: The Maldives may be expensive but well worth it, Jamie says

Your earliest travel memory?

Nearly drowning in a swimming pool in Spain aged four.

Can you recommend a holiday read?

Aldous Huxley’s collected essays â€" especially the one about what to read on holiday.

Jamie stars in The Globe’s production of Henry V. Go to www.shakespearesglobe.com.

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