Sarah and Yuliana did. So are they exhausted by office life... or selfish and irresponsible?
By Lauren Libbert
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Trying to explain the beauty of Shakespeare to a group of unruly teenagers too busy sending text messages to listen felt like a soul-destroying way to earn a living. It was frustrating work, and secondary school teacher Sarah Kerr felt so demoralised that she needed an escape plan.
So she took what she saw as her only route out of a job she was finding unbearably stressful: Sarah got pregnant. Now she spends her days at home with her one-year-old daughter, Alex. Itâs a long way from the chaos of the classroom, and Sarah is unapologetic about the choice she has made.
Choosing pregnancy as an escape from work seems rather drastic. After all, childbirth and motherhood are not exactly a walk in the park. Yet, according to a new survey by a glossy weekly magazine, nearly half of 2,000 British women questioned said they were considering having a baby to get a year off work.
Escape route: Sarah Kerr admits she had daughter Alex so she could take a break from her stressful career as a teacher
Itâs a shocking statistic and one which will enrage many people. After all, using pregnancy to jump ship and leave others to shoulder your responsibilities hardly bolsters the female cause.
Lord (Alan) Sugar, entrepreneur and host of the TV show The Apprentice, spoke for many when he said recently that UK maternity laws meant people âwere entitled to have too much; everything has gone too farâ.
Hard-pushed employers and over-worked colleagues will be among those who agree with his analysis.
The same survey revealed that one in three women works longer hours than she used to, and more than half suffer sleepless nights because of job-related stress.
In a tough working environment, itâs not hard to see why maternity leave â" up to 12 months of partially paid time off â" can be appealing.
Maternity rights in Britain entitle women to 52 weeksâ leave and are the envy of the world. Women having babies in the U.S., by contrast, can take 12 weeksâ leave, unpaid, though a few states do have laws forcing payment for some of that time.
If a British mother doesnât want to return to work after maternity leave, she must give her employer the notice stipulated in her contract. She doesnât have to repay statutory maternity pay, but some employment contracts can require a woman to repay all or part of any enhanced maternity pay.
'Being a mother is exhausting, but Iâd always choose this over my stressful job'
For Sarah, 34, paid maternity leave provided the break she needed from her stressful job.
Having worked as an English teacher in inner-city schools for ten years, she felt that sheâd reached meltdown.
âI loved my job and was committed to it, but it had become more about reaching targets and drilling for exam grades than engaging with students,â she says.
âThe extra paperwork, preparation and lack of resources just loaded on the pressure,â says Sarah, from Halesowen in the West Midlands.
Escalating bad behaviour in the classroom didnât help, nor did the lack of support from management.
âSome days the children would be running round the classroom, or even up and down the corridors, refusing to listen to the lesson Iâd carefully planned and I felt I had no back-up to deal with it,â she says.
âOn one occasion, I ran into the management office in tears, saying âI canât be in that classroom any moreâ because it had got so bad.
âFrom the time I arrived at school at 8am, it was non-stop teaching, prepping and supervising, with a 15-minute window to grab lunch.
âWhen the official school day ended at 3pm, inevitably thereâd be meetings or children asking me for help with their course work, and I could never say no.â
Evenings and weekends were spent marking and planning for lessons.
âI was committed to my pupils, but I started to feel bitter about the lack of support I received.â
Happier now: Motherhood is much more rewarding for Sarah than her career
Watching colleagues go off on maternity leave started Sarah thinking. She and husband Sean, a painter and decorator, had been married for two-and-a-half years, and while theyâd discussed having children one day, Sarahâs desperation meant she seized upon it as an escape route.
âI started to think that pregnancy could be my way out,â she says. âSean and I became less careful with contraception and I hoped it would happen so that I could have a break.â
It was a radical course of action. After all, taking protracted time off is not the most honourable of ways to extricate yourself from work.
Maternity leave can leave an employer in the lurch, especially in small businesses where thereâs no money to pay replacement staff, and puts pressures on to colleagues forced to take up the slack.
Nonetheless, Sarah was delighted when she got the news she wanted.
âIt was like a weight had been lifted from me,â she says. âI didnât even consider how relentless being a mother might be. The idea of being at home seemed luxurious in comparison to the stressful commuting, difficult lessons, long meetings, planning and marking.â
That said, Sarah does admit she felt guilty about leaving the pupils who valued her teaching.
âI was leaving my job in the lead-up to exams and felt a âsense of responsibility towards theâstudents.â
'Maybe I should have taken a sabbatical so I could have had time to rest and think about what I wanted to do'
Sarahâs close colleagues kept telling her how lucky she was to be âescapingâ.
The moment that Alex was born in April 2011, Sarah knew there was no question of her taking less than her full entitlement of 52 weeks maternity leave.
âI wanted as much time off as I could have,â she says. âI found motherhood magical and the thought of not being with Alex was distressing.â
After nine months, Sarah realised she couldnât go back and resigned. âIâm so much more happy and relaxed now,â she says. âBeing a mother is exhausting, but Iâd always choose this over my stressful job.â
On maternity leave, Sarah received full pay for a month, 90 per cent of her pay for two weeks, 50 per cent of her pay for six months, then statutory maternity pay. For the first six weeks, this is 90 per cent of average pay. After that itâs at the basic rate of £123.06 a week for 33 weeks.
With low morale rife and fewer job prospects, maternity leave can be seen by some as offering breathing space. Women get to keep their jobs âand have extended time off, âwith the added bonus of having a baby.
Chartered occupational psychologist Alison Price has encountered dozens of women who have had a baby in response to the economic downturn. âTodayâs difficult conditions may exaggerate the push away from work and the pull towards having a family,â she says.
While this may be understandable, the notion of women abusing the relatively generous maternity system only adds fuel to the fire for employers already sceptical about the wisdom of employing women of child-bearing age.
Among their fears are that once a woman decides to start a family, she may be out of the workplace more often than she is there.
âThe people dumped on are often women who donât have children or men who donât have the option of taking extended paternity leave. This can lead to resentment,â says Professor Christine Edwards , of Kingston University Business School.
âTaking maternity leave as a short-term way out of a stressed working environment is daft. Research shows that career prospects and future earnings deteriorate when a woman goes part-time.
âWhat women should do is try to negotiate better working conditions with their line managers.â
Change of direction: Yuliana's maternity leave has made her realise she wants to work for herself
As a student enterprise manager, 31-year-old Yuliana Seymour, from Purley, South London, landed what she thought was her dream job at Southbank University in May 2010.
But she soon came to realise it was a poisoned chalice, with no staff, a measly budget and little support from colleagues.
âI was working up to ten hours a day, and while it was rewarding, it was also exhausting and isolating. Some mornings I felt so low that I didnât want to go to work.â
After marrying her boyfriend, Selwyn, a tutor, in November 2010, Yuliana came to a decision.
Sheâd been in her new job for only seven months, but felt she needed the space and time to work out what her next step should be.
âI hadnât planned on getting pregnant for at least a couple of years, but maternity leave would give me financial support as I considered my options. I knew lots of women whoâd done the same.
WHO KNEW?
61 per cent of women return to work aft er maternity leave, according to the National Childbirth Trust
âI wanted a way out and pregnancy seemed the answer, though I did feel a bit guilty â" especially as I hadnât been in the job long.â
A month later, Yuliana was pregnant. She was thrilled â" but her employers didnât share her delight, and she was soon counting the weeks until she could leave.
Her daughter, Jessica, was born last September, and Yuliana admits she was naive to anticipate that motherhood would be a break.
âMaybe I should have taken a sabbatical so I could have had time to rest and think about what I wanted to do,â she says.
Still, Yuliana plans to take every day of her 12-month maternity leave and doesnât feel bad about her employers.
âThey have two people doing my job, which shows how much I did,â she says. âMaternity leave is giving me time to think and has made me realise I want to work for myself.â
Yuliana was on full pay for six weeks, half-pay for four weeks and now receives statutory maternity pay. Effectively, she will have been paid for nine months out of 12.
If she doesnât go back to work, she will have to pay her employers back two monthsâ full pay.
Incredible as it sounds, Dr Ellie Lee, reader of social policy at the University of Kent, believes Yuliana and Sarahâs pregnancies are their way of protesting against difficult working conditions.
âIn the past, if you were disgruntled with working conditions, youâd strike or protest and work towards change. Nowadays, those options arenât available,â says Dr Lee.
âStressed working women have very few avenues of complaint and get to the point where they think: âWhat else can I do?â â
Ticket to freedom? Maternity rights in Britain entitle women to 52 weeks' leave
Whether women are seriously using pregnancy as a means of protest is debatable, but there is no denying that many women find motherhood to be a more appealing option than a career.
âIf youâve become ambivalent about work, becoming a parent is a way to discover a new identity,â says Dr Lee. âYou can build a new life around children that can feel much more rewarding than a job.â
However, using pregnancy to escape work has wider, more sinister repercussions. Women have fought hard to be taken seriously at work â" to have a presence in boardrooms, run large companies and close the gender pay gap.
Using tactics to take time off when men donât have a similar option puts the fight for gender equality back years.
Sarah and Yuliana may be happy to opt out in the name of motherhood, but they â" and others considering the same course â" should reflect on what they could be doing to the careers of the thousands of working women left battling t he recession without them.
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If it was a rest she was after she had no chance with a new baby!
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Women are fulfilled by having babies, raising families, and engaging with communities - not by sitting in an office compiling spreadsheets. - Superfry, London, 3/5/2012 0:08 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Shut your mouth, who made you an expert on what ALL WOMEN WANT ?
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"Maternity rights in Britain entitle women to 52 weeksâ leave and are the envy of the world." Hi, I'm from the world and I am distinctly not envious of these provisions! I'm having a baby in August here in Australia and I get up to 104 weeks off, full pay for 13 weeks (taken at half pay over 26 weeks) and full time minimum wage earnings (about 350 pounds a week) for another 18 weeks. I'm not that jealous of the fairly measly UK entitlement thanks. I am fairly sure most women are intelligent enough to know that having a baby is no route to peaceful 'time off' but a demanding full time job in itself. This article is basically anti-women, anti-baby, anti-family, and anti women with children working to support themselves. I thought DM was a family friendly, anti welfare newspaper? Bizarre.
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Geez....I keep my OB/GYN appointments to my days off and I will have 8 weeks maternity leave which I have been saving money for since it is unpaid here in the US. My husband will also be picking up extra shifts at work to supplement the loss of income. I suppose some people get temporary disability but I could not see making my boss have to pay for a personal decision on my part. Must be nice, ladies!
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What a horrible reason to have a child.
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As a Woman I strongly belive that maternity leave should only be 3 months and that no employer should have to too keep a woman's job open for her. Why should they have to take an agency staff member or hire someone in for a year and have to train them up. If you want a baby then you should have to hand your notice in and then apply for jobs when you want to go back to work. I do not blame any employer for not recruitng a woman if they think at somepoint that person is going to go off on Maternity leave. Yes I have had children and handed my notice in because my boss should not have to support me because I made a choice to have children even though I loved my job.
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At the same time women expect to earn the same money as men...?
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Best quote: "according to a survey in a weekly glossy magazine"
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Thankfully, not one close work colleague has ever done this. In any job I've had. Each woman I know works hard, and when pregnant, has more than compensated for their absence's. They have a pride enjoyment in their jobs are team players. They've all had children, one with twins. Still delivering the figures, or keeping up to date with legal cases. A doctor recently suggested I take 3 months off sick from stress, apart from being self employed, so it wouldn't be viable, my job is one of the best parts of my life. So instead, being pragmatic, I've edited my life to the pals friends who make their lives happen, got rid of the moaners who gripe about very little, as a long hard look made me realise outside work was actually more stressful unrewarding. Perhaps these ladies should look at what were other contributory factors to their unhappiness before choosing the baby option. Weak selfish in all respects. Though probably best for the people they left contributing.
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What a lovely mother stating the prime reason for getting preggers was to get a year off. For such an old looking woman she sounds very naive and immature. That child is your responsibility for the next 18 years. What on earth does the father say or think about his wife parading their baby all over the papers? Disgraceful!
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