Jumat, 08 Juni 2012

Confessions of a serial mistress: Affairs with 50 married men over the past six years and still not found Mr Right

Confessions of a serial mistress: Affairs with 50 married men over the past six years and still not found Mr Right

  • Karen Marley, 45, is divorced - and says she's happier 'flitting around' than settling down
  • 'Married men have had their rough edges sanded off,' she says. 'They are better trained'
  • Karen, from Richmond, N.Yorks, says: 'I know married life isn’t for me. But I know that married men have the qualities I am looking for'

By Julie Mccaffrey

PUBLISHED: 05:57 EST, 8 June 2012 | UPDATED: 10:48 EST, 8 June 2012


Professional mistress: Karen Marley, 45, says she would rather date married men. 'Single men in their 40s are single for a reason,' she says

Professional mistress: Karen Marley, 45, says she would rather date married men. 'Single men in their 40s are single for a reason,' she says

She views a wedding ring as an aphrodisiac, a wife as 'the other woman' and the old mantra 'never date a married man' as a joke.

Karen Marley, 45, has been a self-confessed serial mistress for the last six years and has dated 50 married men.

'Married men are better trained,' she says.

'They have had all their rough edges sanded off by their wives and know how to behave around a lady. And married men are better in bed.'

'I’ve learned that a single man in his 40s is single for a reason. Either he has no social etiquette whatsoever or he’s a player, just looking for his next wrestle.'

'A single guy I was on a date with licked his plate in a restaurant. A married man would never do that because his wife would knock his head off his shoulders.'

Karen is a member of IllicitEncounters.com, the dating site for married people. Women can join for free but men are charged £134 a month to find a mistress hav ing consciously made a decision to have an affair.

Karen insists that she merely ‘borrows’ husbands and doesn’t want them for keeps.

'Their wives should be grateful when it’s me their husbands choose. I’m the perfect mistress. I am never going to ask them to leave their wives for me. Most mistresses do, but not me. If I asked him to leave his wife, in every argument from then on he would say: "Do you know what I gave up for you?" I don’t ever want to be part of that.

'In fact, when one of my men confessed about me to his wife and told me his marriage was over, I finished our affair. I was horrified. I don’t want to steal someone’s else husband for good, just borrow him for a while.

'I know how to behave as a mistress â€" and I don’t just mean in bed. I would never ring one of my married men at home at 2am or the weekend because that’s their time with their family.

'I would never throw a hissy fit if they don’t spend Valentine’s, Easter or Christmas with me. We both know exactly what the goalposts are. That’s the beauty of it all.'

Karen has been confronted by a couple of angry wives who suspected she was sleeping with their husbands.

She insisted that she was merely friends with the men and stopped seeing them immediately. She feels no guilt about her behaviour because she says the men on the site have already made a conscious decision to have an affair before meeting her.

'I am not the reason for their marital problems,' she says. 'Also it costs so much to join, so you get a certain quality of man.'

when one of my men confessed about me to his wife and told me his marriage was over, I finished our affair'

'When one of my men confessed about me to his wife and told me his marriage was over, I finished our affair'

Indeed, despite the current economic slump in the UK, Illicit Encounters have reported that business is booming â€" with the number of new members up by 27,000 in the last two months.

Experts say that that cheating websites are popular because many unhappily married couples simply cannot afford to get divorced in the current economic climate.

The stagnant housing market, growing family debt â€" up 58 per cent to an average of £9,314 per family this year â€" and the average cost of divorce - £13,000 â€" are forces behind the wide-spread shift to infidelity.

Many new Illicit Encounters members stated on their application forms that they were joining because they were in unhappy marriages that they were unable to get out of in what is now a ‘double-dip’ recession.

Illicit Encounters spokesperson Rosie Freeman-Jones said: 'Many couples are now finding themselves trapped in unhappy marriages because they simply cannot affo rd to divorce.

'It’s not just legal fees. It’s the fact they can’t sell their houses since the market is so stagnant. Worse, some are in a position of negative equity. A surprisingly high number of people who have recently joined have said that they count their marriages as over already and would have already got a divorce by now if they could only afford it. Having an affair is treated almost as a practical, rather than a romantic, decision.'

Mistresses like Karen Marley are reaping the benefit from this boom in cheating. She stresses she is not after the men for their money â€" and makes good money as a writer. Most of her affairs do not last long.

She says: 'When husbands are on loan to me they almost revert back to being in their 20s because that’s often the last time they dated. We go to the theatre and do all the things married couple no longer do because they’ve already done it.

'I get the good bits of married men. During our time together, it’s the wife who is the other woman.'

Karen divorced her husband 11 years ago, but says she is happier flitting from one man to the next rather than finding Mr Right.

'I know married life isn’t for me. But I know that married men have the qualities I am looking for.'

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If the men cannot afford their household bills or a divorce, how can they afford to take their bit of fun to the theatre. Sounds to me like aload of old flannel, people will always find a way if they are that unhappy, the reality is alot of men are not so unhappy with their spouses that they want to leave, what the cheats want is a change of body, and because they know how shallow and pathetic that would sound, they come up with aload of dumb excuses to warrant their flings. If these cheats really were not in love with their spouses anymore, why then when the boot is put on the other foot, and they are betrayed, do they get so self-righteous and upset? Cheats are the first to scream blue murder when their "milestone" seeks solace elsewhere. As for the woman in this article, i suspect she is fooling herself into beliveing that she is protecting herself by dallying with slopping seconds, and saying she doesn't want to keep them, her way of keeping contro l, silly woman

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What a shame all the negative comments are based on looks, and the whole point of the article has been completely missed. No, I'm not desperate and unable to get a man of my own. No, I'm not breaking up relationships. And no, it's not all about looking like a supermodel. What a shame in this country we judge on looks alone and not the content of the story. I'm single because I WANT to be, not because I HAVE to be. And I love every last minute of my life :) Can you honestly say that about your lives??

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I have met a few women like this and I have always found them to be attention seekers with low self esteem. They just love the drama and the excitement of getting one over on other women. In some way it will make her feel better about herself (temporarily) to think a married man is risking all to be with her. I myself am now happily married (2nd time lucky) after ditching my ex who had an affair with a tramp like this. Luckily no kids were involved and it was the best thing that could have happened as I've now been with my wonderful husband for 10 years and we have a son. The men who stray are spineless and weak and will say one thing to her and the opposite to their wife. She has no idea who they really are and neither do their wives. When I was single I would never have gone with a married man. I am worth more than that. No I am not Samantha Brick! I am just a normal lady with morals and a sense of self worth unlike this sad pathetic excuse for a wom an.

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You're all slating this woman because she has been honest - what about slating the men she dates for paying £134 A MONTH to have an affair!!!! This lady is single and, therefore, free to do as she pleases with regards to dating. The men, however, are the ones at fault as they are married!!! -Frazzled Mum , Gloucester, 08/6/2012 ______________ Quite frankly getting fed up with this nonsense that only the married party is the one in the wrong. She is KNOWINGLY entering extramarital relationships, and in fact prefers it, due to her sheer selfishness. She is as guilty as the married man. The only occasion where a mistress isn't guilty is when she is unaware of her lover's marital status. Oh and by the way, she is a disgusting person to behave like this. She clearly has no idea of the heartache affairs cause to the families when it later, inevitably, gets revealed.

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You're not a mistress, love.

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You're all slating this woman because she has been honest - what about slating the men she dates for paying £134 A MONTH to have an affair!!!! This lady is single and, therefore, free to do as she pleases with regards to dating. The men, however, are the ones at fault as they are married!!! **************************************The men have chosen to keep their mouths shut. Not brag about it in the DM. And no, they are both at fault. Women want equality in everything, except when it comes to affairs, and then it's all the man's fault. It doesn't work that way. She walked into these situations knowingly, she is to blame also. She is not off the hook because she is single. Actually, it makes her look worse because she could have easily chosen a single man and not a married one.

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It takes all sorts.

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Absolutely disgusts me that there is a dating website for married people wanting to have affairs - affairs are heartbreaking enough if you happen fall for someone you work with or a friend (and still inexcuseable if you have respect for your current partner to not end things first) but to consicously decide that you want to have an affair and pay to join a website to find someone because it's "too expensive to get divorced"......jeeez, I am lost for words!

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She loves herself a bit doesnt she?

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I know this type of woman they get off I. The fact men are prepared to risk there marriage to sleep with them, then when they decide to leave there wives for them they get scared and lose interest. I feel sorry for her the real true love of a man or woman is by far better than any sex or illicit affair. I understand it's not her decision for the man to choose to do this but she shouldn't deceive herself that these men are better as they have been 'trained' these are the men who want to have there cake and eat it too just because he doesn't lick his plate or have poor manners doesn't make him a nicer person he's still a selfish and ridiculous human being !

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