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Love of a father contributes more to a child's development than that of its mother, study claims

Love of a father contributes more to a child's development than that of its mother, study claims

  • Finding was part of large-scale analysis of research about the power of parental rejection
  • Researchers say it should help reduce the incidence of 'mother blaming' for trouble children

By Fiona Macrae

PUBLISHED: 06:18 EST, 13 June 2012 | UPDATED: 02:04 EST, 14 June 2012


Influence: New research has revealed that the love of a father is one of the greatest influences on the personality development of a child

Influence: New research has revealed that the love of a father is one of the greatest influences on the personality development of a child

A father's love is as important to a child’s emotional development as a mother’s, a large-scale study has confirmed.

Examining the cases of more than 10,000 sons and daughters revealed how a cold or distant father can damage a child’s life, sometimes for decades to come.

The review of 36 studies from around the world concluded that his love is at least as important to youngsters as that of their mothers.

Researcher Professor Ronald Rohner said that fatherly love is key to  development and hopes his findings will motivate more men to become involved in caring for their offspring.

‘In the US, Great Britain and Europe, we have assumed for the past 300 years that all children need for normal healthy development is a loving relationship with their mother,’ he said.

‘And that dads are there as support for the mother and to support the  family financially but are not required for the healthy development of the children.

‘But that belief is fundamentally wrong. We have to start getting away from that idea and realise the dad’s influence is as great, and sometimes greater, than the mother’s.’

His conclusions came after he examined data from studies in which  children and adults were asked how loving their parents were.

Questions included if they were made to feel wanted or needed, if their  parents went out of their way to hurt their feelings and if they felt loved.

Those taking part also answered questions about their personality. These ranged from ‘I think about fighting or being mean’ to ‘I think the world is a good, happy place’.

Tallying the results showed that those rejected in childhood felt more anxious and insecure as well as hostile and aggressive.

Many of the problems carried over into adulthood, reported the study  published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Review.

Crucially, a father’s love was often just as important as a mother’s. In some cases, it was even more so. One reason for this may be that rejection is more painful when it comes from the parent the child regards as more powerful or respected.

Professor Rohner, of the University of Connecticut, US, said rejection in childhood has the most ‘strong and consistent effect on personality and development’.

He added: ‘Children and adults  everywhere â€" regardless of race, culture, and gender â€" tend to respond in exactly the same way when they perceived themselves to be rejected.’

Professor Rohner said that children who feel unloved tend to become  anxious and insecure, and this can make them needy. Anger and resentment can lead to them closing themselves off emotionally in an attempt to protect themselves from further hurt.

This may make it hard for them to form relationships. They can suffer from low self-esteem and find it difficult to handle stressful situations.

Teaching the ways of the world: If a child perceives her father as having higher prestige, he may be more influential in her life than the child¿s mother

Teaching the ways of the world: If a child perceives her father as having higher prestige, he may be more influential in her life than the child¿s mother

Professor Rohner added that research shows the same parts of the brain are activated when people feel rejected as when they suffer physical pain.

He added: ‘Unlike physical pain,  however, people can psychologically  relive the emotional pain of rejection over and over for years.’

His research shows a father’s input is particularly important for behaviour and can influence if a child later drinks to excess, takes drugs or suffers  mental health problems.

Norman Wells, of the Family Education Trust, said: ‘This study underlines the importance of intact and stable families where both the father and the mother are committed to bringing up their children together.

‘Successive governments have failed to recognise the fact that men and women are different and that they  parent differently.’

He criticised ministers for ‘pretending that one parent is as good as two, or that two parents of the same sex are as good as two natural parents of the opposite sex’.

This week, the Coalition announced penalties for mothers who fail to allow former partners to maintain a proper relationship with their children, including jail. A right to ‘shared parenting’ following family breakdown will also be enshrined in law.

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Noone can predict how things will turn out. A happy couple today, can be a couple embroiled in a bitter divorce 10 years down the line. People change, this is life. We all know that ideally a person should have 2 parents a mother and a father who love each other. But that's not always realistic. People will get damaged, from absent parents, parents always fighting etc. That is life. There just needs to be a good psychological service available to them when the children grow up to help them with their demons. We don't live in a perfect world.

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Why is this article not in "Female"?
An unborn child`s paramount minimum primary right MUST be TWO loving, nurturing parents who truly want it - it deserves nothing less.
And consider this simple fact; without BOTH sets of genes, it cannot be created in the first place.
Therefore (as the woman is the incubator) perhaps the man should have to "sign off" the pregnancy before she is allowed to carry to full term?
This will enable the primary right of the CHILD to be fulfilled.
Anything else should be considered a selfish act of “gene theft”.

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What happens when the father lives far away, and the kids don't care to visit? And the Ex makes visiting them hell on earth! Spoiled Kids + Evil Ex = No Dad

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we have assumed for the past 300 years that all children need for normal healthy development is a loving relationship with their mother Speak for yourself. The Left have assumed. The Left.

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And when will the courts, in this age of enlightened science, stop allowing women to use the children to maintain power over their ex, to stop him moving on to a new relationship, to threaten him if he doesn't fall into line? Fathers for Justics had to be started with absurd, risky stunts, to draw attention to the fact that fathers are being robbed daily by the courts - and according to this evidence, the children are also being mugged by the same stupid, reckless, mother-centric "legal" processes.

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Children need good parenting, whether two parents or one and of whichever sex. Some Fathers are brilliant, some are not. Some Mothers are brilliant, some are not. Ideally a child should have two parents but sometimes Death does not understand this and one parent is left alone. Not ALL lone parents are divorced, separated or single! I praise those raising children alone through no fault of their own NOR their late partner and I know of more than one such parent doing a better job than some "twosomes" and whose children are a credit to the one parent they have left.

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Its not always true. I didnt grow up with my father around and turned out great with a degree and a well-paying job. My father went on to marry another woman and had 2 kids with her; they're rude, degrading, uneducated idiots on welfare. I turned out better without his influence in my life!

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@ice queen, Leeds - some of us fathers would love a relationship with their children. Some of us pay more than our dues but have bitter ex wives who turn their children against them with lies and bitterness. These are dead beat Mums. There are a lot more than people like you would accept.

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It's not exactly rocket science to those of us with brains. However, some of us are born to dysfunctional parents and have to cope. Contact with both is fabulous, but what happens when one parent (either gender, I don't care) has serious issues? What happens then? Does history repeat itself?

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A father's love is as important to a child’s emotional development as a mother’s, a large-scale study has confirmed. A 'large-scale study' was necessary to figure this out? Whatever happened to just plain common sense? Perhaps the feminists will back off now and realise that the traditional marriage is best for all in the family.

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